4 Lies about Guys

"It is a safe thing to trust Him to fulfill the desire which He creates." Amy Carmichael

Lie number 9- "I need a boyfriend." rests deep within ALL our hearts. Oh, wonderful...right? Those who believe that we shouldn't 'try out' men like different ice creams struggle just as much as those who go from boyfriend to boyfriend. It really comes down to me, Faith, being content. Where is your fulfillment? I have found mine in imagination, entertainment, food, fitting in a crowd, never messing up etc..as you can imagine everything after a while failed miserably. I am now, however, filled with the Gospel. First I became more knowledgeable of God...became His friend...then my love for the cross followed and it changes my every thought and deed! Having a boyfriend is easy. Being best friends with your mom isn't. Getting married is easy. The discipline of waiting and trusting isn't.

That brings me to another point I read in the book that was wonderfully convicting! "God did not design marriage to make you happy, but to glorify himself." If I look to a relationship to make me happy I WILL BE disappointed. Let us fuel that which we know will never fail. Christ will never fail us! Actually He is full of delightful surprises. Life is never boring with our God.

Lie number 10- "It's OK to go out with a non-christian." falls hard on those of us who are more affected by 'looks' than truth. 'He' may attract you but if he doesn't give himself up for Christ then where is the purpose in interacting with except to witness? Let's be honest though, when it comes to 'cute' guys, witnessing is hardly on our minds. I cannot fuel attraction to someone whom I can never marry. It isn't fair to myself!! What happens when I give my heart away because I allowed this or that thought to come in? I think, ladies, that we must not underestimate the desires of our own hearts. No relationship that involves love/attraction should be 'just for a little while.' The Lord wants us protected and part of that comes in the form of a command-2 Corinthians 6:14-18. My friends, there is no room for compromise!

Lie number 11- "It's not really sex." continues to be convicting to me. I should not be allowing even a hint...with my clothes, my attitude, my eyes. The perfection of God's plan for us is truly intriguing! He has high standards and I can't help but be curious about His radical ideas...what will it be like to walk one way through a sea of people walking the other? God has someone saved for YOU. We will miss the beauty if we awaken either love or sexual relations too early.

Lie number 12- "I can't handle the loneliness of staying pure." will forever make my heart break. For some of us it is just a daily thing...some days we are sad and feel the longings of love and others are better and more focused. Yet, for many of us the line has already been crossed and it seems the loneliness is much, much worse. However, the wonderful, radical path of Godliness WILL surpass any lonely feelings we have now. Please don't forget, my friends, that He gave us those longings so that in fulfilling them He would be glorified! He has it all under control. I read-"The measure to which you protect the purity of your future marriage is often the measure to which you will experience true intimacy once you are married."

One last thing, for those of us that may be called to be unmarried- do not live your life as if it is less meaningful or blessed than those who are married. Everyone goes through loneliness! AND everyone can find true lasting joy in Christ. Any married woman who gave her heart to God can tell you that to put her contentment in her husband is empty and always ends up turning her back to truth. Remember that your life is for your Creator and He has nothing less than HUGE surprising twists and turns you never saw coming! Have courage and know that He is God.

I hope we can begin to see the big picture. If I could pray for anything when it comes to relationships it would be that! Lord, help me see the great scheme of your design for me. Lead me to contentment in you and show me where I can 'cut off the hand' that draws me to sin against you.

XoXo
Faith Mae